Active listening is, without doubt, one of the most beneficial and effective parenting tools you can have. It is a way of listening to someone that conveys in a ‘doing’ way that you are present and with them, that you hear and understand their perspective (this doesn’t mean agreeing necessarily) and have gained a deeper aware-ness and appreciation of the situation or event they are describing.
Active listening is about accepting, not teaching. We may know that some of what our child is telling us is untrue or at least a generalisation but what matters in the moment is that they feel their emotional experience is understood and validated by you.
Effective Listening Quiz
Now take some time to reflect on how your answers have made you feel. What learning is there in this?